Tag: relationships

  • How Girls Learn Emotional Reciprocity (and Why Boys Don't)

    From that same Metafilter discussion: “Adolescent female friendships are LEGENDARILY difficult and drama-prone. And they are! Being an adolescent girl and navigating the emotional landscape of female friendship is hella hard! It’s not just media hype to sell Mean Girls narratives! But I think the narrative the media wants to attach to it is “girls […]

  • Dating an Emotional Charlatan

    From a Metafilter discussion about modern dating and emotional labor: “A few years ago, one of my friends began dating an accomplished lawyer who made good money. He was charming and generous. He 100% seemed like he had his shit together and could keep up with her. He cooked for her occasionally and his home […]

  • Domestic Abuse Survivor Tells a Future Victim What Happens Next

    “Once he is the sole breadwinner I can garun-fucking-tee that you won’t be seeing friends or family without him, and only when he’s okay with it.”

  • Rom-Com Death March Reduces Divorce Rate

    “Discussing relationship movies, it turns outs, was just as effective as more intensive skills-building programs.”

  • On Marriage and Long-Term Relationships

    “It’s nowhere near as impressive as your red hot blade, but it’s so strong, it could probably cut through stone.”

  • A Marriage Is Like an Ikea Kitchen

    “A marriage is like an IKEA kitchen. Bear with me. You fall in love with the showroom display. You put down your money and you get it home and there it is. Completely disassembled. Except that you didn’t get the instruction manual, though you kind of have an idea of how it should go because […]

  • Walking Away

    “This is how drama keeps you engaged; it makes you believe that if you just think about it enough, you’ll unravel the mystery and be able to find the magic words/gestures/actions to enable the other person resolve their issues and love you (out of gratitude and admiration) in return. …┬áThis is all bullshit. It is […]

  • Nail That to Your Bedpost

    “‘I seem to have fallen in love with someone else. I’m moving out.’ … Finally, she agreed to meet me in a pub in the West End. A bustling, crowded, very public place. I suppose we both thought that would help reduce the possibility of unseemly emotional scenes – not that she was really given […]