Transgender Man Becomes Pregnant

Thomas Beatie is was born a woman, but is now legally a married man. But his wife was not able to conceive so he discontinued his hormone treatments in order for them to have a child:

Wanting to have a biological child is neither a male nor female desire, but a human desire. Doctors have discriminated against us, turning us away due to their religious beliefs. Health care professionals have refused to call me by a male pronoun or recognize Nancy as my wife. Receptionists have laughed at us. Friends and family have been unsupportive; most of Nancy’s family doesn’t even know I’m transgender.

The first doctor we approached was a reproductive endocrinologist. A few months and a couple thousand dollars later, he told us that he would no longer treat us, saying he and his staff felt uncomfortable working with ‘someone like me.”

When I finally got pregnant for the first time, I ended up having an ectopic pregnancy with triplets. It was a life-threatening event that required surgical intervention, resulting in the loss of all embryos and my right fallopian tube. When my brother found out about my loss, he said, ‘It’s a good thing that happened. Who knows what kind of monster it would have been.”

How does it feel to be a pregnant man? Incredible. Despite the fact that my belly is growing with a new life inside me, I am stable and confident being the man that I am. In a technical sense I see myself as my own surrogate, though my gender identity as male is constant. To Nancy, I am her husband carrying our child—I am so lucky to have such a loving, supportive wife. I will be my daughter’s father, and Nancy will be her mother. We will be a family.

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5 thoughts on “Transgender Man Becomes Pregnant

  1. Caylin

    Yes!
    Tom sounds like a man comfortable with his own masculinity.
    Just thinking of being pregnant can be very hard on a man’s ego.

    Congratulations Tom and Nancy.
    I hope all goes well and you are able to have as many healthy children as you desire.

    Thank you for using the desired pronouns.
    In the vocabulary I know, Tom was not born a woman, but rather born female.
    We don’t know how to change gender, so I expect he was always a man.

  2. MDG

    She/He is a woman…… A woman that decided to have surgery so that she could live as a man but then decided that would experience childbirth as only a woman can. People, we need to stop being selfish and doing what we want for ourselves without thinking about how our decisions will effect future generations.

  3. AE

    Well, the way I see it is the following. How many transgenered persons have sired or given birth to a child, in a body not of their choice?
    We may never know the numbers. So, what’s the difference here? Not being recognized as a male, and then suddenly, out of convienience, now we have a man? Dare I say that smacks of hypocracy?
    Oh, guess I did.

  4. brenda

    i totally support u!!! i have a few gay friends and i would totally support them if they wanted to go on and so something like this… you and nancy are incredible people to go out there and face the world agianst all odds!!

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