The Father Daughter Purity Ball is a memorable ceremony for daughters to pledge commitments to purity and their fathers to pledge commitments to protect their girls. Because we cherish our daughters as regal princesses—for 1 Peter 3:4 says they are “precious in the sight of God”—we want to treat them as royalty.
Here’s the pledge:
I, (DAUGHTER’S NAME)’S FATHER, CHOOSE BEFORE GOD TO COVER MY DAUGHTER AS HER AUTHORITY AND PROTECTION IN THE AREA OF PURITY. I WILL BE PURE IN MY OWN LIFE AS A MAN, HUSBAND AND FATHER. I WILL BE A MAN OF INTEGRITY AND ACCOUNTABLITY AS I LEAD, GUIDE AND PRAY OVER MY DAUGHTER AND MY FAMILY AS THE HIGH PRIEST IN MY HOME. THIS COVERING WILL BE USED BY GOD TO INFLUENCE GENERATIONS TO COME.
Their little girls (and their “gifts”) are male property, pure and simple. The sooner they understand that they only have one thing that’s of value in a man’s world, the better. And it belongs to one man until the day he turns it over to another.
This would not be so creepy if the fathers involved in this were not, in a very visceral sense, claiming ownership over a property of their daughter’s sexuality. Their daughter’s virginity is not theirs, it is not theirs to defend, to protect, or to otherwise make grunting and fighting noises over.