Dating a Single Mom is Entering a Family

Dating advice for a guy asking about dating a single mom: “As the male child of a single mom, I know what it’s like to be your kid. To have guys come in and out of my life, pretending to like me so they could get to my mom, then ignoring me when they get her. I would date a woman with a child, but I can not be a part of that child’s life until we are getting serious. I don’t want to meet your child at all, so that I’m not just another man coming in and out of their life. Once things get to a bf-gf level, then I will meet your child, with the complete understanding that I’m not just dating you, I’m dating both of you. No matter how much a woman says that her kid has a dad, or that her kid doesn’t need a dad, or that she’s not looking for a dad, if I’m in a romantic relationship with you, I fill a dad-like position, whether you like it or not. Every adult influences a child, and the closer the adult is the more they will influence the child. Also, if your kid is an asshole, and you’re not being a good mom to deal with it, then that’s a deal breaker. Once again, I’m dating you and your kid. You could be awesome, but if your kid sucks, and you suck as a parent, then I’m out. Overall, I will date a single mom, but they have to understand that the commitment to them is now way bigger with a child. No matter how you phrase it, or what you think, I’m not dating you, I’m dating you and your kid. And it’s my responsibility to understand that as well. I’m not entering a relationship, I’m entering a family.”

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