Monthly Archives: May 2013

Andy

May 28, 2013

Dear WordPress-

WordPress hits a decade.

Dear WordPress-

Has it really been 10 years? It seems just yesterday we were playing around on my blog- and the blogs of a few high school friends. Two of those friends are married- one isn't anymore- two are stil…

Andy

May 23, 2013

Reddit Users Attempt to Shame Sikh Woman- Get Righteously Schooled

Good to see this in the rotation again. Back in Sept 2012 a Redditor took a surreptitious picture of a Sikh woman who has facial hair and then they posted it online and criticized her mercilessly. She handled the bigotry with grace- aplomb and divinity.

Reddit Users Attempt to Shame Sikh Woman- Get Righteously Schooled

A Reddit user going by the handle "european_douchebag" posted a surreptitious photo of a Sikh woman with the caption "i'm not sure what to conclude from this." The user's apparent confusion stems from the fact that the woman–bound by her religion not to cut her hair or alter her body–has an abundanc…

A Transwoman Learns How (Some) Men Relate to Women

“One night I was talking to a guy on chat, and he kind of threw out this really sexual thing to me. It took me by surprise and I basically said what the fuck? And then he got rude. He called me a bitch and said I was rejecting him all of a sudden, and got really mean. I was like, what???? Then it happened again with another guy. Then again. And again!  … Guys would be talking to me all nice and then all of a sudden they start wanting more, and getting pretty graphic with the sex talk and I would say hey cut it out, then they’d call me a tease, a bitch, whatever. I hadn’t even said anything sexual, I was usually just talking about music or games or whatever. One night I just burst out crying because I was totally confused why this kept happening. Then my wife gave me the rundown…

  • When a guy says hello in chat, don’t answer right away. Wait a minute or so.
  • In chat, always wait before saying or answering anything. Don’t speak right after they do.
  • Don’t ask a lot of questions to a guy in chat or real life.
  • If a guy looks at you in real life, don’t look him in the eyes: look down or away.
  • When out in public, basically don’t even look at guys in the eyes at all.

Those may seem ridiculous or harsh or whatever. Point is, these “rules” work for me. I follow these steps, and guys have stopped making such obvious advances and then getting mad because I don’t want to have sex with them. I never realized that by being so open and friendly that I was apparently giving them the all clear sign. The “rules” she told me are lessons she had learned and built on having grown up as female in a female world. I had no idea about this stuff, having been brought up as male.”

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